“Women are their own worst enemies. And guilt is the main weapon of self-torture…
Show me a woman who doesn’t feel guilty and I’ll show you a man.”
On Saturday Ms. Peterson, an HR and organization development consultant, gave us a talk about women as agents of change and what role they play in society. At first, the first thing one can think and does occur in most situations is that women suffer severe discrimination in the social aspect but also in the labor aspect. At some point in our lives we have heard or even experienced the situation where men have a better job than a woman and not by their skills and experience but simply by the fact of “being a woman”. Therefore, it becomes a constant struggle of women to compete with men, to be respected and that their coworkers realize how valuable it is women as employees and leaders in a company.
However, I realized I had been wrong because in the middle of the exposition one of the attendees said that she worked in a bank, one of the places you might call “men’s world”, however, she had no problems currently with a man, instead she had it with a woman and was for a competition issue. Then, Ms. Peterson said this quote: “sometimes women are women’s worst enemies”.
At first I did not understand how this could be possible, but then Ms. Peterson explained that both women and men have their strengths and weaknesses. One of the weaknesses of women was that they internalized too much what other people say and therefore are more easily affected, whereas men were more practical.
The important thing is to realize what strengths we have and what strengths men have and find a middle ground between the two, so we will better be able to overcome the adversities that we will have along our way.
If we analyze the phrase “women are women’s worst enemies” also follows the idea that women tend to be their own worst judges. We tend to be very unfair to ourselves and feel guilty for the things we do and we are constantly apologizing for our actions. For this reason, we find it hard to recognize in front of others our achievements because we believe that “bragging” is something negative, but it really is not.
The first step in getting other people to respect us is to RESPECT OURSELVES. We should not feel bad for talking about our achievements, because if we do not talk about them NOBODY WILL DO IT FOR US. We must realize how valuable we are and feel proud of our accomplishments. In this way, we will be able to reflect leadership and confidence and we will be more able to be an example for others. If you really know yourselves you are going to be able to identify what are your strengths and what are your flaws, do not be afraid that people around you know that.
Finally I want to leave you with this message: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9MRikcyYOZ4
I hope you enjoy it!